Reasoning for Three-Year-Olds and Influencing Behavior

I am a very imperfect parent, and I am trying to do better than just “Do this because I said so,” though that is a perfectly acceptable reason now and then. On this note, I had an amusing interchange with my three-year-old this morning that illustrates both my lack of creativity and his delightful reasoning…

Dad (to 3-yr-old who is holding himself): Son, you need to go potty.

3YO: I don't want to go potty.

Dad: Son, you need to go potty.

3YO: No. I don't want to go potty.

Dad: Son, you need to go potty.

3YO (resolutely): No.

Dad (a little steamed): Did you just tell me “no”?

3YO: I don’t want to go potty.

Dad: I know you don’t want to go potty, but you need to.

3YO: No.

Dad (heating up): Ok. Well you can go to the potty, or you go to your room and be all by yourself. [Pregnant pause from Dad while he searches for a more graceful option than just either-or.] Or, you can have a spanking. Which do you want?

3YO (with certainty): I want to go potty.

I’m thinking about the book Nudge that I started but never finished: Sometimes influencing behavior is just about asking the right questions.

Quinn says election provided "mandate" to raise income tax for schools - chicagotribune.com

Really?

I'm almost speechless.

Quinn says election provided "mandate" to raise income tax for schools - chicagotribune.com

Love Listening to Erin Bode Sing

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I used to hate the idea of a college football playoff. I have changed my mind.

I enjoy Division 1 college football and I know that the NCAA crowns football champions in its other divisions by means of playoffs. I enjoy rewarding teams that have had success a trip to a warm-weather bowl game. I enjoy the drama of the NCAA D-1 men’s basketball tournament and think a playoff in football would offer not only drama but also provide the athletes a much better opportunity to prove, on the field, who is the national champion. I also know that, as the NCAA advertisement says, most of these kids will “go pro” in something other than football. They’re students, and they need to turn back to academics after the New Year.

After reading several proposals over the past couple years, including the 16 team proposal by Dan Wetzel that I read today and the earlier eight team proposal by Sports Illustrated (Sorry, I cannot find the link.), here is a modest D-1 football playoff proposal.

NCAA D-1 Football Playoff Proposal

 

Last Sat in Nov:	Conference Championships
1st Sat in Dec:	No games
2nd Sat in Dec:	Round of 16*
3rd Sat in Dec:	Round of 8*
4th Sat in Dec:	Bowls
Dec 31st:	Great Bowls
Jan 1st:	Great Bowls + Final 4
Following Sat:	National Championship

The Bids

I think I like Weztel’s idea to give automatic bids to the conference champions. I’m not sure about the NCAA basketball-style selection committee for the five at-large bids. I might like borrowing from the old SI proposal and just use the BCS formula to award the remaining available bids.

The Schedule

Quite frankly, I would rather require these athletes and staffs to go home on Thanksgiving weekend or catch up on school work, but a lot of these conferences will have championship games and it looks like that is the weekend for them. After the conference championship Saturday, it makes sense to give the playoff teams an extra week to rest and prepare for the round of 16. The high seeds get the reward of playing at home for rounds one and two, but I offer this caveat: give the home team 70-80% of the tickets and let the home team decide where the game is played.

I make this last suggestion because many of these schools are “northern” and would be playing in December. For example, though Michigan’s “Big House” is a phenomenal location, it can be pretty nasty weather-wise in Ann Arbor in mid-December. If beautiful Ford Field in Detroit were available and you gave the team 80% of the tickets at a venue like that, they might say that’s the way to go.

The proposed schedule provides another break around the Christmas holiday. This gives some time for the playoff teams and their families to get together, but also provides opportunities for the existing bowl games that operate. In that week following Christmas the bowls operate up through the the late afternoon of January 1st.

It might make sense with the Dec 31 and Jan 1 bowls to call them (for lack of a better name at this time) the “Great Bowls.” These bowls may have some formula, perhaps allowing those defeated in the rounds of 16 and 8 an opportunity to compete against other teams.

My proposal suggests that January first have the football version of the Final Four at night, with the first game at around 6pm and then have the national championship game on the following Saturday.

All of this get us a reasonably undisputed national champion, keeps the regular season very meaningful, grants independents and BCS-busters like Boise State a real shot, keeps bowls and the warm weather travel opportunity, and gets it all done before everyone has to show up for the second semester.

This surely doesn’t consider everything, but that is not my interest. My interest is summarized in the paragraph above. What do you think?

Seated with Jesus

Matthew 9:9-13 (ESV)
⁹ As Jesus passed on from there, he saw a man called Matthew sitting at the tax booth, and he said to him, “Follow me.” And he rose and followed him. ¹⁰ And as Jesus reclined at table in the house, behold, many tax collectors and sinners came and were reclining with Jesus and his disciples. ¹¹ And when the Pharisees saw this, they said to his disciples, “Why does your teacher eat with tax collectors and sinners?” ¹² But when he heard it, he said, “Those who are well have no need of a physician, but those who are sick. ¹³ Go and learn what this means, ‘I desire mercy, and not sacrifice.’ For I came not to call the righteous, but sinners.”

I am thankful to be seated with Jesus.

Man convicted of murder in DUI crash that killed Nick Adenhart - MLB - SI.com

Just months after my father died in a car crash in 1992 (He had a heart attack at the wheel and crashed into a tree.), my younger brother's best friend was killed by a drunk driver going up the wrong side of the highway. The story below and about the deaths of A's pitcher Nick Adenhart and his friends illustrates just how dangerous it is to drink and drive, and raises the "curious" cases of Braylon Edwards of the New York Jets and other professional athletes who suffer little penalty for drunk driving. True, Edwards didn't kill anyone (Thank God.), but in driving at twice the legal limit he all-but fired a weapon in a public place. Gilbert Arenas of the NBA's Washington Wizards goes to jail and loses a full year of play and salary after carrying a weapon into his locker room, but Mr. Edwards and others in the NFL get to play and make game-winning catches, for example, just days after arrests for "driving while intoxicated."

It's time to take drunk driving more seriously. If you want your players to be role models, NFL, MLB, NBA, etc., then it's time for more than a slap on the wrist, even if the offense doesn't injure someone.

Man convicted of murder in DUI crash that killed Nick Adenhart - MLB - SI.com

Allowances

My wife and I have talked on-and-off for years about whether to institute an “allowance” policy for our children. At present, we still do not have them…

With this in mind I downloaded a few of National Public Radio (NPR) “Planet Money” podcasts, including “Allowance Economics: Candy, Taxes, and Potty Training” from September 3, 2010. The interview features Australian economist, Joshua Gans, who as a father of three young children has been toying for years with his own system of incentives in his household.

I listened intently while on the treadmill this morning. I am curious to hear from other parents about their allowance policies.

Christian Leadership with Depth and Authenticity

The new President of The Lutheran Church—Missouri Synod, Rev. Matthew Harrison, has a degree of theological depth and a personal authenticity that I admire greatly. I have just listened—again—to his first media interview on the day of his election.

The interview occurs on a formerly sanctioned but now “independent” Lutheran radio program called “Issues, etc” (The story of how this happened is found in this Wall Street Journal column.).  I am not as regular a listener as I would like, but—now and then—I turn to www.Issuesetc.org for important reflection on key issues that affect us.

For those who want to hear an excellent example of depth and humility in Christian servant-leadership, click here.